Society tells us ‘the size of your body doesn’t matter as long as you are happy’, but then why is there also so much toxicity when it comes to society’s views on people’s body?Loving yourself should be something everyone should feel, but sometimes body shaming can lead to so many toxic things.
Sometimes it starts abruptly, when we look at our bodies and criticize it. It starts in our early teens and from there we have the same issues. In our early teens we go through changes that we aren’t used to. We get taller, get acne and start to look at ourselves in a different light. We notice small things that we do not like, look at other people and think to ourselves , “what am I doing that I can’t look like?”. Sometimes the things we are envious of we can’t change . We all have these insecurities and we don’t know how to cope with them other than look at ourselves and see nothing but something that you’re not happy with.
Although there are some teens who embrace their image, there are still several teens that struggle in accepting their body image, but some other people do not feel the same way. People judging us out loud is one of our worst fears. ¨Body dysmorphic disorder affects approximately 1% of individuals in the U.S. The onset of BDD typically occurs during early adolescence, although it can occur at any age. BDD appears to affect males and females equally.¨ so says evolvetreatment.com . We already look down on ourselves but now we have other people telling us what we think is true and we do have a reason to look into the mirror and cry for hours, sometimes it becomes too much. We can’t handle all the people who look at us the way we look at ourselves, sometimes people hurt themselves physically. Although we do have people who don’t do these kinds of things like friends and family we often think, “they are obliged to their parents” “these people are my friends they don’t want to hurt my feelings”. When it comes from a stranger they don’t know who you are, the most they can judge on is how we look, which is why it hurts so much more. Remember that your size will never be matched to your worth, you are valuable and worth it. If you do struggle with any body image issues, do not hesitate in reaching out to an adult or friend. The voice you hear in your head isn’t yourself; it’s a toxic version of yourself who just happens to be the one screaming because you’re willing to listen to it. You’re amazing the way you look, besides if someone does happen to judge you by looks they don’t deserve your time of day , positivity is everywhere and professionals are willing to help you through your problems. In time and confidence the screaming will sound like nothing at all and you would have accepted yourself for the type of person you turned out to be.